As I consult and coach pastors and leaders on men’s discipleship, I point out the fact that men need to have other men in their lives; men who know them well enough to read them and sharpen them. Every man needs ‘a friend who sticks closer than a brother’ (Proverbs 18:24b).
I did an informal poll at a fire pit event recently. Each man said he’d like to have a close friend but less than 40% actually had what they would call a real friend. Without solid male friendships, men are incredibly vulnerable. And Satan preys on lonely men.
Personally, I am blessed each Friday morning to spend time with three men who know more about me than others. They help me, challenge me, encourage me, pray for me and sharpen me. I’m a better man because they continue to point me to Christ and the Word. I pray that this will be the testimony of every man, young and old.
Dr. Chuck Lawless posted a great blog on this very topic earlier this week. 10 Reasons Guys Need Male Friends in the Church. Here are two of his ten reasons:
1) God created us to be in relationship with others. God’s statement that it was not good for Adam to be alone (Gen. 2:18) was not a command for everyone to be married; it was, though, an indication that God did not create us to be loners. Genuine friendships with other males are one means God has given us to meet this requirement.
5) Accountability is best with others who understand our struggles. We can talk with our wives about our temptations and struggles, but they cannot fully understand what Hughes calls “the serpentine passages” of our heart. Only another man can understand the depth of our depravity.
Read the full blog post here. BTW… My family and I learned much as we sat under the teaching of Dr. Lawless when he served as the interim pastor of our church. He continues to bless, teach and disciple me every day through his blog. I encourage you to subscribe to his email list while you’re there!