Hey men, I don’t know how it is at your house, but we are finally settling into some routines with school, church and other obligations. The first few weeks of the school year always require patience, adjustments and leadership.
I want to remind myself and encourage you to lead in your home. Your situation may be very much like ours. Stacy manages much of the logistics and paperwork but it’s important for her to not feel like she’s alone. I’m not saying that I always get it right, but here are some of the thing I do -almost every day:
• Ask each child how their day was at school. Be specific: What are your learning in math? What book are you reading? Tell me about your recent science assignment
• Ask each child what their favorite part of the day was and then what was their least favorite.
• Ask something like this:
• “How many times have you been warned about your behavior this week?” or
• “When was the last time you were warned? (I hope you don’t assume your kids are perfect angels . . remember we all have a sin nature!)
• Review papers that come home from school so you, Dad, know how they are doing academically and can engage a necessary.
• Help with homework whenever possible. Last night, I reviewed states and capitals with Zachary and latin vocabulary with Tim.
Here are a few other points to consider:
• Find a way to make everything fun. Even homework is not so bad if you can find a way to laugh.
• Encourage your kids by pointing out their strengths and not harping on their weaknesses.
• Tell them that you love them each day . . . this is non-negotiable.
• Help them establish habits (making their beds, keeping their rooms straight) that will serve them well for life.
Men, your family wants and needs you to lead. Commit to being a man to sets an example and a reasonable pace of life for your family. The rewards will be many. But, as you lead, remember to do so with grace and truth. Dad, you need to be in the Word . . . we all do well to read things like Ephesians 6:4 again and again.
Fathers, do not exasperate your children, instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.
Noble Notes posted on September 25, 2009