I read Good News About Marriage by Shaunti Feldham at the beach and would recommend it for all of you who are married and/or serving in marriage ministries. Turns out, many of the statistics and negative comments that you hear about the status of marriage in our culture and especially the church are simply unfounded. I encourage you to pick up a copy of this book. I’ve already referenced it many times in the small group of young adults that Stacy and I are now leading. Here are a couple of helpful quotes.
“Actually the divorce rate has never hit 50 percent. It has never even gotten close. Again, it depends on what you mean by the divorce rate, but no matter what definition you use, we’re significantly below 50 percent right now. It is maybe closer to 30 to 40 percent, but again, no one knows.”
“Eventually it was clear that there was one common denominator among marriages that survived versus those that failed: hope… Did the couple have a sense of hope… or a sense of futility?”
“Thankfully, according to the above study, if an unhappy couple does stick with their marriage, the vast majority are happy within five years, with the largest improvement coming from those who were the most miserable.”
“We mentioned how easy it is to fall into a pattern of saying “Marriage is hard” even though, despite the inevitable challenges, most people would not actually describe their marriage that way. What seems much more universal and accurate, we shared, is that we sometimes have to work hard in our marriages.”
“What I was continuously struck by, though-in their lives and mine-was how simple the changes often were. It was as if, with a little bit of extra knowledge about their spouse, people could scoot themselves into a whole new realm of marriage.”