Killing Lions: A Guide Through the Trials Young Men Face by John Eldredge and Sam Eldredge.
When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned lie a child. When I became a man, I gave up childish ways. 1 Corinthians 13:11
Many men, young and old, know what this verse says but aren’t really sure what it means. As a matter of fact the transition from childhood to manhood may feel and look different in various times and cultures?
In a winsome conversational tone Killing Lions allows us to eavesdrop on a series of discussions between father and son as the son explores what the journey to manhood looks like and feels like. Together, they tackle the top issues that are on the minds of many young men… education, future, money, ability, identity, career, women, decision making, marriage, purity, the Bible and God.
While I didn’t find every question pondered helpful or every piece of advice useful, I did appreciate the model that is set forth here as a father engages honest, transparent conversations with a son who is finally ready not only to listen but to ask for dad’s wisdom.
Dad listens to son’s questions and challenges and never criticizes but tells his own stories of doubt, frustration and revelation. A real key here is that he listens… yes, I know it’s a book but that’s what’s modeled here and a place where many of us dads make errors. We often start pushing answers and solutions before we’ve really heard our sons raise the issues in their own words.
So, this is well worth the investment in 2 copies… One for you to read and one for your son. Give him the book and have him read through it, underlining or marking things that jump out at him. You do the same and then plan for a meal together where you compare notes. Don’t make it laborious or cumbersome. One meaningful conversation with your son about something he is willing to talk to you about may be priceless. And if you handle it well… may prompt others.
Here’s a quote from Dad on pg. 85 regarding decision making…
The future is not an endless horizon before you; you cannot simply head off in any direction. Give who you are and how you’re wired, Sam, you will never, ever be a professional baseball player, concert cellist, orthopedic surgeon, mathematician, or Member of Parliament. You get my point. The list is actually long. When you consider your age, your situation, your gifting and training, the country in which you live, the economic forecast, I think you will find that the horizon is not nearly as vast as you have been told- or as the Internet makes them seem.
The truth is, the options before you are limited and that is a great relief. The open ocean is beautiful to look at, but terrifying if you have to navigate it in a small boat. But you are not facing the open ocean. God puts us within a context, with limited gifting and limited resources, and that is immensely kind.
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