She’s NOT Your Enemy

Last week the scripture passage we studied in our Bible Fellowship class was Matthew 5:43-48. Our class is studying the Sermon on the Mount through the lens of marriage. That makes for some pretty interesting discussion.

Matthew 5:43-44 reads: You have heard that it was said, ‘Love your neighbor and hate your enemy.” But I tell you: Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you…”

We seized on the question of who is your enemy? The discussion was pretty lively because we have all had those hostile marriage moments when we treated our wives as an enemy, rather than a partner. I think every one of us has a story about a time in our marriage when something was said or done and our reaction was combative and confrontational rather than constructive.

No one should be surprised by this. We are simply flesh and we’re going to react. But, I think as we mature in our spiritual lives and our marriages we should experience these episodes less frequently and recognize them more clearly. Because…. Here’s the real issue… Stacy is not my enemy! We do have an enemy;

An enemy that wants to weaken our marriage

An enemy that want us to pit us against each other in a fleshly battle

An enemy that wants to separate us and disrupt the ONENESS that we committed to nineteen years ago

Guys, remember what Paul told us in Ephesians 6:12 our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.

Men, Stacy is not my enemy. But I could tell you stories about times when I treated her like she was and ultimately had to recognize Satan’s handiwork and apologize. I bet you have similar stories.

Remember also what Peter told us: Be self controlled and alert. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. I Peter 5:8




Noble Notes Posted on October 15, 2010